Leave No Broken Hearts
Articles From The Caring Heart with Dr. Joyce from Spokane Washington

“Love does no wrong to anyone. That’s why it fully satisfies all of God’s requirements. It is the only law you need.” (Romans 13:10).

The sad scenario can be that someone has been hurt – even devastated – in church, or anywhere else, for that matter. The person goes home, hurting inside, and no one is concerned. Say, for example, the person has been the innocent victim of jealousy or any other covert nastiness going on in the social environment. Others may be aware of what happened, but no one approaches to give comfort or to – for goodness’ sake – to try to repair the damage. The hurt may be the result of a misunderstanding, but no one will ever clear up the misunderstanding, because it “just isn’t talked about.”

The injured person is left to recover as best as he or she can, and it usually takes a lot of time. Scars may, and usually do, remain.

Folks, this is not Jesus. “Happy are those who strive for peace – they shall be called the sons of God.” (Matt: 5:9). First of all we, of course, are to hurt no one. We are to build one another up. We are to examine our motives lest we act out of any form of jealousy, guile, revenge, or whatever. Secondly, if we are aware that some other person has been mentally, emotionally, or in any other way, hurt, we are to minister empathy, compassion, warmth, and love to that person. If we have the chance, we are to make every effort to make right the situation – to be a healing factor. This is not optional.

Conflicts happen among people. How we resolve them is crucial. It is possible for two people, in conflict about something, to put their anger on the “back shelf” and to act as partners in finding alternatives that are acceptable to both. There are excellent books in the local libraries that are free for anyone to use, to gain skills. Peace needs to be restored!

It’s all a question of attitude. Do we want to follow Jesus? Or do we want to indulge in indifference or in protecting our own status in the group, or in nursing our own less-than-admirable motives? Let’s practice being like Jesus, to the humans, to the animals, and to the whole of creation.

Dr. Joyce
Copyright 2007

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